Many of us are happy with our sex lives however for some we just can’t get enough and we have desires to try different things.
There are a vast number of adult lifestyle events and activities you and your partner can attend or participate in depending on how adventurous you are.
Aphrodisiacs
If it is just a problem of libido you could try an aphrodisiac.
Oysters are commonly known to increase your desire for sex presumably from the high content of Zinc they contain, a less widely know aphrodisiac is Turnips that apparently can double the females desire for sex and increase sperm production in the male.
Sex Positions
I can’t really imagine anyone not trying different sex positions and for the many of us that do we will agree we have a favourite.
Different positions can increase intimacy between couples and it can also increase arousal.
Magazines and films
Reading an erotic story or watching an erotic film together will in most cases immediately increase your sexual arousal. There is a vast amount of media and publications you can use to spice up your sex life or use to increase your desire.
Everything from erotic stories to hard core films are available and can usually be found on the top shelf of your local newsagents. Subject include just about anything you can think of and more and vary in explicit content form soft which would include films like Lady Chatterley’s lover to the more hardcore commercial films.
Dressing up Wearing something sexy or revealing for your partner is a good way to get them interested or increase their fun. A new sexy nightie can do the trick but some like to dress in particular styles such as a nurse while others may go for leather or PVC. For some the feel of these materials against their skin is particularly arousing. A full fetish kit can look extremely attractive.
Role play Role play involves playing out a fantasy, again the list of fantasies you could try out are endless. Some people like to pretend they are strangers, they will meet out and pick each other up regenerating the spice between them. Other roles acted out may include whipping or spanking, being tied up, domination or submission.
Toys and games
The most common is a vibrator and we believe most women have owned one at one point in their lives and if they haven’t they should get one today!
For the woman a vibrator gives her full control and allows her to gain an orgasm exactly how she likes it, for a man either using a vibrator on his partner or watching her can be very very arousing.
There are an endless array of styles and shapes of vibrators you can be sure to find one in your favourite colour or even one that glows in the dark.
There is a large quantity of adult games available that encourage the players to become aroused. From simple drinking and stripping games to full on games for two or more couples that allow you to interact with each other in a sexual way.
Shows and exhibitions, galleries and cinemas
By venturing out there are many places you can visit that may increase your passion.
Simple art galleries, cinemas and adult lifestyle exhibitions are good places to visit.
If a regular gallery or sitting on the back seat at your local cinema doesn't do it for you, then you may like to visit a gallery that displays erotic art, many artists specialise in this area, there are also adult cinemas showing solely adult films.
There are now regular adult lifestyle exhibitions such as Erotica and Passion which host a vast array of adult related merchandise from clothing to furniture, the exhibitions usually feature a show of erotic dance and are well worth the visit.
Naturism, spas and saunas
Naturism is not usually associated with sex or that is what some of the true naturists tell us however simply being naked and at one with nature outdoors can be arousing. Swimming naked in a pool or lying on a sandy beech naked together is sure to be an erotic and liberated feeling.
A naturist spa or sauna is a great place to experience this, most have a relaxing and soothing Jacuzzi and at some you may even find that couples openly engage in some kind of sexual activity but be sure to check the rules or you may find yourself thrown out.
Swinging (Wife swapping)
If you are really adventurous you may like to consider involving others in your sexual activity. Apparently the Romans enjoyed orgies so this is nothing new however swinging is far from anything like what used be termed wife swap parties. These days you don’t rely on the luck of the draw but more select the partner’s yourself.
There are different levels of swinging from just agreeing to watch another couple who may be exhibitionists to a full on orgy. Many don’t have full sex with others and will just engage in some light fondling, kissing and caressing, a step further would be to swap for oral sex and if you are comfortable with it experience the ultimate with another person maybe even while your partner is watching.
Adult clubs and parties For the more adventurous there are a large number of adult lifestyle clubs and venues all over the world with over 100 in the United Kingdom alone.
These clubs are generally exclusively members only and include clubs for gays, transvestites, swingers and fetish pursuits.
We have ourselves visited a number of these clubs and found the activity and facilities vary greatly between venues. Everything from Jacuzzis to dark rooms can be found and many have different themed areas to enhance the erotic experience.
While the fetish dress such as rubber or leather may look and sound more extreme the actual fetish clubs are often far less of an eye-opener than your average swingers club.
The fetish clubs are more about the act of dressing and the fetish itself and a good boogie where as at a swingers club you’re far more likely to have the opportunity to see some sexual activity and often be activity involved.
Many people hold their own adult parties or private meets in their own homes with others that they have met at clubs or via internet dating sites. Private meets are a good way of ensuring that you have carefully selected your potential sexual partners and allow you all to enjoy a more intimate sexual experience within a group in the safety of your own home.
Holidays
And if all that is not enough or you prefer to play in the sun then a adult lifestyle holiday could be just the ticket for your desire.
From the famous swinging Hedonism resorts in the Caribbean to secluded country resorts of the French reverie there is no excuse not to have some adult fun while on holiday.
Fetish
Many people have a fetish and most are not as extreme as you may expect.
Most popular fetish simply involves dressing up in a specific material or theme.
Materials range from rubber, leather or PVC. Themes may include uniforms such as military, school, maids, nurses and doctors.
The dressing up is usually accompanied with role-play.
The role-play allows you to act out your specific fantasy. You may like to be examined intimately by the doctor, spank the maid when she has been naughty or maybe you have the desire to be restrained by rope or tape commonly called bondage.
Some fetishes are a specific love of an item of clothing such as shoes or boots, in other cases it may be a particular part of the body. A common example is a foot fetish.
There are plenty of opportunities to indulge in your fantasy. There is a vast array of shops supplying fetish clothing and jewellery, once you are equipped with your PVC dress and whip, why not visit one of the many fetish clubs.
For a list of outlets and events please see the London Fetish Map.
Models in the photos above do not necessarily condone an adult lifestyle.
10th November 2009 - P.C. Malcolm Thomas a.k.a Fun Boy Bobby sacked by the Met Police after it was discovered he has posted naked pictures of himself on adult dating websites.
Couple evicted from home after complaints of noisy sex.
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